Northern Virginia Ethical Society

"Act so as to bring out the best in others, and thereby in yourself"
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Parenting Group - Raising Ethical Children
At NoVES, parents are as important to us as the kids.  Therefore, we sponsor a monthly parenting group that gets together at a member's home for a potluck and to discuss parenting and ethics.  Even better?   Volunteers provide free child care so that the parents can have uninterrupted time to talk.  We also get together at other times at museums, parks, for parties, etc.  For more information about this program that is open to members and Society friends, contact Jeffrey Crocker and Marian Arcelay.

For more information about our Sunday School program, visit our Sunday School page.
NoVES also sponsors periodic speakers and workshops on parenting issues. We also like spreading helpful information about raising ethical children.  

The following material is taken from Support for Ethical Parenting, by Arthur Dobrin @ 2001 All Rights Reserved, reprinted with explicit permission.

40 Things You Can Do To Raise a Moral Child
Emotions Are The Groundwork Of Morality

Tune into your child's feelings
Comment on your own emotions
Talk about how you think others may be feeling
Read Stories that are fanciful
Sing to your children

Feelings Need To Be Guided By Reason

Give reasons why you approve or disapprove of your child's behavior
Provide reasons for rules you want your child to follow
Encourage your child to play with children of various ages
Engage your children in reflective discussions by asking open-ended questions
Promote independent thinking

Self-Respect Is A Prerequisite To Acting Morally

Treat your child with respect
Express interest in your child's activities, projects, and dreams
Help set goals and encourage your children to see them through
Praise a task well done
Give you child emotional and verbal support to stand against the crowd when necessary

Behavior Has Consequences

Be flexible - not arbitrary - in your discipline
Don't use intimidation; never use ridicule
Severity of punishment should be related to the severity of the wrongdoing
Discipline with explanations
Criticize in private

Treating All People Fairly Is Fundamental To Morality

Examine your own biases
Provide examples that counteract society's prejudices
Don't allow biased or bigoted comments to go unchallenged
Give your child books that show different kinds of people playing, working, and living together
Talk about differences between people, but speak about them neutrally

Some Values Are More Important Than Others

Tell your chidren about the people you admire and why

Live your life as you want you wnat your child to lead hers
Show the importance of protecting the vulnerable
Comment on compassionate behavior - let your child know that caring is an important value
Let your children know what you value and why you value it

Morality Is Learned Through Observing And Doing

Provide opportunities for your child to help others
Give positive verbal and non-verbal feedback for being a good person
Work with your child in community and volunteer service
Expect and encourage good deeds from your children
Help you children to keep promises

Morality Involves Other People

Talk about the TV shows, music, and movies your child sees
Get involved in your child's education
Make family meals an important and regular occasion
Encouragte activities that involve your child with others
Take an interest in the world outside your home